Delightful Survivors

by Steve

The rigid person is a disciple of death;
The soft, supple and delicate are lovers of life.
                                –Tao Te Ching

 

For Diabetes D-Blog Week Day 2 the topic is to tell about one diabetes thing that we do especially well. So rather than go this one alone, I enlisted some help over dinner last night and what we came up with were a number of things we felt pretty safe bragging about—making good food choices, checking blood sugars regularly, working to understand her diabetes better—but all of us agreed at the tip-pity top of the totem pole is Lia’s own self control.

She has her mother to thank for that. I am much better at keeping my cool in a dire emergency, but Franca—and by pedigree, Lia—have true survivor mentalities. They are humble, gracious and love to laugh. They believe in themselves and live in the present. The decisions they make are simultaneously bold and cautious.

Diabetes is hard on a little kid. No, that’s not quite right. Hard is something you do, like sprinting or moving a piano. Putting up tobacco, now that’s hard. Living with diabetes is galaxies beyond hard. The word hasn’t been invented yet to describe this disease for a little person. Arduous. Demanding. Complicated. These simply don’t stand up to the job.

In fact, hard is the word I’d use to describe Lia, not diabetes. Hard as in: firm in her convictions, whose spirit is not easily broken. Someone who meets each day head on with humor, diligence and earnest. That’s Lia. The one who is able to come home from school not in tears, but smiling incredulously with a story to tell of her teacher who in passing out bars of chocolate to the students came to her and said, “I know you can’t have this, but maybe your sister can enjoy it.” Or who during a critical moment of a pump site change on her derriere says to her mom, who is kneeled down behind her about to release the needle, “Wait, can you move your face away a minute” because she has to fart.

Managing diabetes is an enormous, endless task, like cutting tobacco every day of your life, but it is really no match for a will and personality that are as strong and delightful as that of my lovely daughter and her stoic mother.